So I currently want a divorce because I have been in an emotionally abusive marriage for over a year.?

You made a commitment to the 3 months so why not just set the what ifs away and take the three months one day at a time. The separation and th counselling together will give you both time to reflect and time to be yourselves and see what you want and need in your future. I would back away from the married man because all you are doing is helping to destroy his marriage and hiding from yourself. You need to take this time to find support in yourself not others and become the person you use to be, only better. Three months can be a long time and you may find the love you thought was gone or you may find you have truly moved on just give it time and don't rule anything out yet. Good Luck